Sex Club, playground, collective experience artist
'm a collective experience artist and facilitator of transformational spaces. I spent 10 years in the corporate tech industry before my calling into the nonprofit sector and I remembered that I'm an artist, as we all are. I now follow an enquiry of authentic expression of self through creativity, intellect, emotion and sexuality. I host Sex Clubs and I'm part of a team starting up playground, an online education and engagement platform for sexuality and intimacy. I am trained in and practise co-counselling, mindfulness-based resilience and non-violent communication.
I co-founded an intentional community in London that researches and models how people can live communally, co-create and evolve together. I spent the last 2 years at Alter Ego, a progressive political network that brings together cultural and political leaders to explore the connection between the political, personal and spiritual transformation to find our way out of this crisis moment in history.
I'm involved in the curation and collective experience design of festivals, transformational co-created events and artist residencies, and I'm part of an ensemble of clowns, mischief-makers and witches called The Divine Ridiculous.
Sex Club co-founder, community activist and artist
I'm a community activist, builder and facilitator, developing sustainable and holistic community structures in an urban environment that further our emotional and psychological evolution, individually and collectively, to adapt and meet the challenges of our time. I believe that sexual liberation is at the heart of individual transformation, without which there can be no meaningful societal progress. To this end, I have co-founded Sex Club, a conversational and experiential group space to normalise talking about sex and its nuances, to share knowledge and experiences, and to redefine sexuality as a spectrum.
I have built an intentional community in London for 4 years, developing frameworks for group process work and community maintenance. I consult co-working environments on how to build true community and well-being, amongst others Extinction Rebellion and The Psychedelic Society. And I am part of Alter Ego, a global network of influential leaders who are pioneering psychological and cultural development in organisations and society.
My artistic and personal enquiry is the authentic expression of self through creativity, intellect, emotion and sexuality. I consult on collective experience design at festivals, transformational co-created events and artist residencies. I spent 10 years in the corporate tech industry before my calling into the nonprofit sector and I remembered that I'm an artist, as we all are.
History & people
In March 2017, I met a group of women who were running a Sex Club in which they would watch feminist porn and talk about sex. I was excited to hear about its existence and I wanted to join, yet it was a closed group. Instead, they suggested to start my own sex club. It took me 8 months to muster the courage to host my first women only Sex Club. As format I used a sharing circle where we shared vulnerably and in detail about sex. Since it resonated with everyone, I continued to hold them monthly in my living room, now experimenting with mixed gender group which I found invaluable for my personal development. Noticing how attending Sex Clubs helped my personal transformation, I felt passionate to make this space available to a more diverse audience.
In summer 2018, I hosted the first Sex Club at a festival in Italy, Mandrea. In December 2018, I hosted the first public Sex Club together with Conor Cregg in London at The Psychedelic Society. In the spirit of the Sex Club founder mama’s I envisioned Sex Club to be open source and I drafted a how-to-guide with a simple format to encourage people to host their own Sex Club for their friends and communities. Conor has continued to facilitate with me, and is still part of the Sex Club team. We’ve developed Sex Clubs since with different topics and group process exercises to further our exploration into different topics.
In February 2019, Chloe Wisdom joined. She infused Sex Club with her energy and knowledge in psychotherapy, sex therapy and somatic work. Together we developed Intimacy Jam which is a more embodied version of the conversational sex clubs. We started hosting at different venues such as The Apple Tree, House of Togetherness and took Sex Club to more festivals such as Noisily, Wilderness, Summerhouse, and Togetherness Festival. In June 2019, I’ve hosted the first Sex Club Panel and Chloe further developed the Sex Club how-to-guide and we launched the first Sex Club in Stroud hosted by Psychotherapist Eva Karia. In September 2018 we piloted our first online Sex Club. In the same month, we decided to stop working together. Since we still share the same passion and Sex Club is open source Chloe is likely to continue hosting Sex Clubs. In November 2018 Gili Gilganit starts hosting the first Sex Club in Chiang May, Thailand.